to One's Parents
3. We must obey, respect and
be kind to our parents. In Allah (S.W.A.) words here it goes,
”Your lord has decreed that you worship none
but him and that you be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them obtain old age in your life, say not to them a word of
contempt nor repel them but address them in terms of honor (17:23),
Out of kindness lower to them the wing
of humility, and say: ‘My Lord! Bestow on them thy mercy even as they cherished me in childhood. (17:24)’
have enjoined on man kindness to parents: but if either of them strive to force you to join with me in worship anything of
which you have no knowledge, obey them not. You have (all) to return to me, and I will tell you (the truth) of all that you
So my friends the right of our parents to our obedience, respect and kindness is inviolable.
We only have one breather, which is if they force us to disobey Allah (S.W.A), but otherwise total obedience to them is a
duty binding on us.
The world has become very hectic. Since both men and women work outside the house, it is becoming
increasingly hard to care for our old parents. This does not absolve us of responsibility for our parents. It is required
of us to take care of them, be kind and respectful to them, obey them, and above all, keep them company. Many of us take old
folks to be a nuisance reasoning that they talk too much and repeat the same stories over again and again. This should
not come as a surprise to us. When people grow old, they no longer go out a lot to meet and talk with other people. As a result
they depend on the household members for news on the outside world. When they receive none, they choose to tell us stories
from their days as active members of the society. Talking and being talked to,
is a human need. We should keep our elders especially our parents updated with what is happening in the world in general and
to us in particular. This is good for their mental well-being. We should not
just brush them aside reasoning that they won’t understand whatever we might have to tell them. Try them –
you may be surprised. Terminology and technology may change, but human nature will always remain the same. Therefore, to talk
and being talked to by the old folks is also to our advantage. Old people are a fountain of wisdom drawn from
their experience of long living. Allah (S.W.A) confirms it here.
“It is He who has created you from dust,
then from a sperm-drop, then from a leach like clot; then does he get you out (into the light) as a child; then lets you (grow
and) reach your age of full strength; then lets you become old – though of you there are some who die before –
and lets you reach a time appointed; in order that you may learn wisdom (40:67)”
So my friends, let us
be there for our parents, as they have been for us. They will continue to be there for us and our children.
They are a great resource to be wasted in the nursing homes.