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Lesson Fifty : Obstacles to Obedience ( Part III B )CTND
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Why Forgiveness




III. Anger hurts us and not the aggressor.


All along we rage with hatred, our insulters may not even have a clue about it, and even if they did, they probably would not care. In fact, causing anger in us might have been their intended objective. Anger blurs focus and judgment on what is important and most effective response. At the very worst, one loses self control altogether. All these are very precious God-given gifts to lose to the enemy. Anger therefore must be avoided at all costs.


IV. We forgive to be forgiven by Allah (S.W.T)


Allah (S.W.T) speaks:


“Let not those among you who are endued with grace and amplitude of means resolve by oath against helping their kinsmen, those in want, and those who have left their homes in Allah’s cause: Do you not wish that Allah should forgive you? For Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful (24:22).”


This verse was revealed after an event, which threatened the fledgling Muslim community in Madinah at the time of the prophet (S.A.W). This verse teaches us how and why we should forgive. Some muslim community members slandered the prophet’s wife, Aisha (A.S). Aisha (A.S) was the daughter of Abu-Bakar (A.S). The ring leader of the slanderers was a man who depended of Abu-Bakar (A.S)’s support. In anger, Abu Bakar (A.S) wished to stop this support and thus, this verse was revealed. In anger and resentment, we are kept away from serving Allah (S.W.T). It is hard for anyone to do anything of kindness to another who insulted him. A muslim is created to serve Allah ( S.W.A), and that means doing good to Allah ( S.W.A)'s servants, friends or foes. Forgiveness allows us to do good to everyone, thus serving Allah (S.W.T). We must always keep it in mind that we are here to serve Allah (S.W.T), hence we must forgive to make our job easier. Besides, when we forgive, Allah (S.W.T) forgives us, too.


V. Allah (S.W.T) loves those who forgive


Allah (S.W.T) speaks highly of those who forgive, especially those who manage to control thmseles and forgive even if they are still angry. Allah (S.W.T) speaks:


Whatever you are given (here) is (but) a convenience of this life: but that which is with Allah is better and more lasting: (It is) for those who believe and put their trust in their Lord (42:36)


Those who avoid the greater crimes and shameful deeds and, when they are angry, even then forgive; (42:37).”


Forgive and live; life is much sweeter with a settled heart than a heart being tormented by anger and resentment. Do not let anger grind your precious heart.